I never thought the day would come where I questioned so many fashion trends and fads. To be honest I have always been the first person to shun the critics and ignore the nay Sayers, as I feel someone should have the right to look anyway they see fit. This was until I became the parent of teenaged daughters. In the recent few years I find myself analyzing every outfit choice with much more scrutiny; especially those outfits worn during my leisure time. I often modify my outfits so they can be more “modest”, ensuring that it is what I like to call “mom like.” Now I know that many of you are asking what does she mean by saying mom like, I mean child friendly attire. Clothing that doesn’t bring your initial thought to “how sexy” but the type of clothing that makes you think “how pretty.” Respectively I understand that everyone has a different view on what we may feel is appropriate around our children I am analyzing this as I view it.
My eldest daughter who will be fourteen at the end of October has become very body and image conscious in the last few years. As expected this is a process that gets worst before it gets better, there are so many fashion debates that arise. There’s the make-up debate, what types of make-up is appropriate for a young lady to wear, is there a such thing as teen make-up? For us make-up lovers there absolutely is. My teens are intrigued by having the perfect eyebrows, you tube has become a permanent fixture in our lives. I even find myself toying with the idea of starting my own channel, they spend so much time watching the tutorials they have even taught me some things. Although a joy to teach my daughters all about to art of make-up, I also worry of too much too fast, I have learned to redirect my daughters from the darker colors, gearing her more towards light, soft colors that work well with their skin tones. There will always be numerous clothing debates, my favorite is the crop top debate. Is it okay for teens to wear crop tops? Some would say sure, others would reject the idea completely, I have found that it’s easier to suggest other edgier but much more parent pleasing clothing idea. Most times you will find that your teen will sway to your idea if you don’t just shoot down theirs. Raising teenagers has been a serious fashion adventure, this is when you realize that clothes shopping for someone other than yourself is not as fun as it used to be when your style was theirs, when the only task you had was to buy a cute outfit with no extra input from them.
Since my girls are now young ladies my journey into fashion has taken so many Twist and turns. It has taught me that sometimes you can adjust what you like to fit who you now are. I realize that having an open mind takes you a long way, especially with teen girls. It has even taught me to remain calm in the face of fashion disaster, because no-one panics more than a teen in the mist of a wardrobe malfunction.
I guess this ones for the mothers and fathers of teenagers. The age of discovery, when they like nothing but want everything. Reality had hit me, I am not the only fashionista in the house, but I think I like it. How would you feel?
Got a special occasion coming up?, or maybe just putting together your daily look? I am sure every one goes through a bit of anxiety trying to find that perfect outfit for the event at hand. There are so many factors that may go through your mind when picking your "look of the day" as I call it. Every day is different and your mood might change, so getting that just right look becomes a task of not only finding the right look to complement the event, but having that look that you will be comfortable in at any time.
Although most people won't admit the truth, there is a such thing as the wrong outfit for an occasion. The moments when you are at the family BBQ and someone walks in looking like they are headed to the night club or worst. The unfortunate reality is that sometimes you are that person. The trick is to find ways to avoid those awkward moments. Easiest and sure fire way is to ask the people or person to whom you will be with. Another way is to just be realistic , think of the type of event you have been invited to. Certain outfits are just not to be worn to every occasion, the perfect black dress is only perfect if it can be converted to fit the needs of the event.
Never be afraid to let your personality shine through, enjoy colors and patterns, explore new styles and trends that you have been dying to try but to scared to dare. There's nothing better than debuting a new look to a special event. Always remember no matter your size your confidence will lead you to outfit victory. My fluffy glams, its definitely okay to explore patterns, floral, stripes, you name it, they are all your friend. Mix and match your outfits, just because you brought it as a pair doesn't mean it must stay that way. You will find that doing this will not only expand your wardrobe, it will save you a pretty penny.
Every woman has an idea of who they are and what they want to be from the time that they are old enough to dress themselves. Those special events that you plan your whole "look" out in your mind, all you need is the financials to be right and the time to do the shopping that it will take to put that outfit together. That feeling for most is a joyous occasion because you know that everything you pick out is going to fit and look right..... Right ????
Growing up I went through so many phases and changes, the "tomboy phase," the what I like to call "dark phase," the "girly phase." I had sectioned off all the different periods of how I liked to dress, practically drove my mother crazy. All these phases had one very common factor, I was still uncomfortable and they didnt feel like me. I just wanted to find my outer beauty.
I got tired of hearing 'you are so cute but your chubby." Almost like I didn't know that. Boy has it been a journey....
Many will ask, "why start a blog? What are you going to write about? What is your message to the world?"
Well here it is, blogging is my spare time fun. It is a way to express myself and also shed light on a variety of things that may have peaked my interest, brought me joy, made me cry or made me think. I only hope to be able to share with you my passion for fashion and all things girly, even though I am not your girliest girly girl, and my love for art and creativity.
I have always been interested in blogging however was not quite sure what the point of blogging was or why it was important to anyone. Obviously I had to do my research. Boy did that take me on a world wind experience, blogs about health, life, style, cars, safety, education, you name it, there's a blog for it. Writers of all walks of life sharing their worlds. A voice that is not only given to the "reporters" or T.V. personalities. A voice for the layman, for the single mom, the happy or unhappy house wife, the couponers and even possibly your next door neighbor.
My hope as a new blogger is that something that I may have wrote will put a smile on someones face, make them think about life and all of it's possibilties. So come along and help me discover all the possibilities of blogging.
Make up had never been something that I wanted to learn. When I say "learn," I mean the know how, knowing how to not walk out the house looking like I am part of the circus. Not that it's anything wrong with that, if that's the look that you are going for, but that wasn't what I envisioned for me. Strangely enough my love for make up came about very late. I wore my share of black lip stick as teen but that was as far as it went. As I look back in time I am in awe as I look at the growth of personal preference.
I have learned so much about the artistry that is behind applying make up. Every brush has a purpose, even product a reason. It's definitely a process, but when you have figured it out or in my case somewhat figured it out you almost feel a sense of victory. Maybe I am the only one that feels that way, but I must say, make up artist everywhere I salute you😊
I thought it would only be fitting to share some of my faves......
Does the Gentleman Still Exist?
What ever happened to the men that opened doors, stood when a woman walked into the room, offered a seat when all were taken. Its seems that these type of habits are no longer taught to our young men. This is not at all to complain that there are no good men, that is definitely not true. Somehow though it still seems like you have to remind today's man that women of today still enjoy chivalry. This has been one of those topics that always seem to "grind my gears," why is okay for a man to just disregard the value of a woman. Is it because we are not demanding it?, or are we settling because they have chosen to just not learn or be taught. I know what your are all thinking, why does it matter? So many questions, I can keep going on and on.
When I see a man that stops in the mist of his busy day to hold a door or like my significant other gently reminds me that I am walking on the wrong side of the sidewalk it just warms my heart. The fact is I don't see these little gestures very often anymore. On a daily basis I watch as men run faster to a seat that is available on a crowded train or bus, leaving an elderly person or pregnant woman standing. Living in NYC it is rear to not be in the mist of a crowd, especially while traveling. I have learned that women have adopted these chivalrous techniques as a way to soothe what is missing in our men. As I scroll through social media often times I see post that tell a pregnant woman horrible things like "she should have slept with a man with a car, WHY!!! How do you not think that possibly she has a hard working man that couldn't take her to where she needed to be, solely because he is out doing for her and his family. Why is that even a joke? There is no harm in offering, the most she would do is politely refuse if she felt she was fine standing for the duration of her trip.
To me the lack of chivalry in this day and age is because we who are mothers and fathers are no longer instilling the importance of this in our children. We most teach our daughters that it is expected of a man to open her doors, stand to his feet when she enters, pull her seat out at the dinner table, ensure he is one the right side when they walk. We must teach our sons the same. I strongly believe that bringing these types of teaching back to our generations we will start seeing much more respect and humility among each other.